The first time I met her was actually through a friend setting me up. She had met her through an art class or course, can't remember which. I’ve been instructed by the author not to give out the name of the friend, no personal details was advised to me. If, I did tell you her name the author would change it like they do on true life reenactment shows. Right, urn, where was I? So, the point isn’t where we met is what happened after?
Well, my friend, who will ever remain nameless, invited us both over to hers for dinner. She’s quite a good cook, see? The premise being if either of us felt uncomfortable we could just make our excuses and leave. Well, neither of us left. We actually stayed a lot later than planned and it was our mutual acquaintance that kicked us out in the end. The next time we met it was just us two and the relationship grew from there.
I was also advised to tell you about my dating and ‘lifestyle’ history leading up to meeting her. I’ve never married because I never really saw the point and I’ve also never fathered any children. That I know of. I sound like I'm explaining myself. I'm not. The reason I'm telling you this is that it's rare to find a woman my age with no baggage. I've phrased that poorly. Let me try again. She's also never been married and doesn't have any kids. She told me she was never really interested in marriage although the wedding appealed to her. We both laughed at that. I told her I'm always up for a big party but I'm pretty sure if you organise a wedding people expect you to marry someone. She was hilarious. She just scrunched her face up and said 'being someone's wife doesn't appeal to me' I told her she was a free spirit and the traditional outdated life didn't suit her anyway. She then moved on to discussing children and said that she did want children when she was younger but left it too late because of her high pressure job. She was a copper, a lady copper. Our mutual friend politely informed me that it was sexist to use the word 'lady' in front of copper. But she's retired now with no husband and kids. So, it seemed we were a great match.
The beginnings of relationships are exciting, new and unknown. Finding out the little quirks that make that person them and no one else. And she had lots. She just seemed like she was a teenager without any of the moody angst that goes hand-in-hand. It's like she was always in the moment and never taking it for granted. That's why I fell in love with her. I know, I said the ‘L’ word. Well, because of our feelings for each other I asked her to move in with me. I wasn't sure she’d even say yes as she’d told me she's never lived with a partner before - she just loves her own space she explained. Then, she flashed me a mischievous smile and told me that wasn't exactly true. The truth was she never lived with male partners but she had lived with female ‘friends’ that turned into ‘friends with benefits’, she then proceeded to wink at me while I was turned on and dumbstruck with my mouth gawked open - or was that my eyes? As you can imagine, I asked her to move in pretty quick after she told me that story.
It wasn't until she moved in fully and we were living together that we actually started to get to know one another. It's one thing dating someone but it's a whole different kettle of fish living under the same roof, sharing the same bed.
Comments